From Diapers to Deadlines: How to Handle Change When Returning to Work

Change is an inevitable part of life, and becoming a mother is perhaps one of the most profound changes we can experience.

As you prepare to return to work, it’s crucial to recognise that change, while often challenging, also brings opportunities for growth and new perspectives. With the right mindset and strategies, you can navigate it successfully and even thrive in your new reality.

Change is the law of life; nothing stays the same

It’s perfectly normal to experience a range of emotions as you prepare to return to work. In fact, you might find yourself moving through stages like those described in Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s ‘Change Curve’. This includes shock/surprise, denial, frustration, low point, experimentation, decisions, and finally, integration.

Remember, it’s okay to feel all these emotions. Acknowledge them, express them and don’t be afraid to seek support when you need it. Kubler-Ross believes you experience every emotion however some pass through the change curve quicker than others there is no wrong or right path. Good communication is essential to managing change, so be sure to speak up, ask questions and tell people what you need.

My practical tips to help you navigate change include:

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1. Map your progress

Use the Change Curve as a roadmap. Knowing that your emotions are normal can be incredibly reassuring. Make sure that you are moving within the curve and not getting stuck in one position.

Recognise that it’s okay to step back to move forward. For instance, when trying out a new way of working that leads to more challenges than solutions, you might find yourself hitting a low point. However, fresh ideas often emerge, allowing you to quickly experiment again.

2. Address your concerns

Write down all the things that are worrying you. Healthy mental well-being is about recognising which concerns you can influence and ignoring the ones you can’t. If you’re concerned about childcare, for example, research and visit potential providers well in advance so you can make informed decisions and ease any uncertainty.

3. Practice self-care

Make time for activities that help you relax and recharge. Time is hard to find, but even 10 minutes to yourself could be all you need.

4. Keep a progress log

Document your progress and always celebrate the small wins, both in life and at work. Reflect on the challenges you’ve overcome. This could be personal milestones, like your baby starting solid food, or professional ones, such as completing a project. Acknowledging and celebrating both areas is essential; otherwise, you may feel a gap in your sense of achievement.

5. Setting boundaries

Stay adaptable and ready for the next transition. Consider the boundaries you want to establish—ironically, setting boundaries can provide more freedom. They create the space and flexibility you need to succeed. Be confident in expressing what works best for you.

6. Review and reflect

Regularly assess how you’re managing the change. What’s going well? What needs adjustment? Try writing down three thoughts and three feelings—it can serve as a helpful mood guide to track how you’re coping with the transition.

7. Find joy in the journey

Try to embrace the positive aspects of returning to work, like enjoying reconnecting with your colleagues. Or the commute that used to be tedious now gives you headspace and time to wind down.

Returning to work will inevitably involve some loss – of time with your baby, of your previous routine, perhaps of a certain professional identity. But it also brings gains: intellectual stimulation, career progression and the opportunity to be a role model for your child.

Embracing your new identity

In my years of coaching, I’ve observed that those who approach change with flexibility and openness tend to adapt more smoothly. Your ability to be flexible is one of your greatest assets. You’ve already demonstrated incredible adaptability in your new role as a parent – now it’s time to apply those skills to your professional life.

One of the most profound aspects of returning to work after maternity leave is the shift in identity. Take some time to reflect on your values, beliefs and goals. How has motherhood changed these? How can you integrate these changes into your professional life? What new strengths and perspectives can you bring to your work now that you’re a parent?

Returning to work after maternity leave is a significant change, but it’s one that you can navigate successfully. Be patient with yourself, stay flexible, and don’t hesitate to ask for support when you need it. Remember that change, while often challenging, also brings opportunities for growth and new beginnings.

Welcome back to the professional world. You’ve got this!